In Your Face Interface

THE key to a successful marriage?

In the 4 1/2 months I've been married to my Samoan Superman I've learned that clear and honest communication is THE key.

After continually builing our personal relationships with the Lord, building our relationships with our spouses is next in line.

Let me ask a question: If you and your partner were able to have sex, but were ordered not to, would your relationship last? Is your marriage founded on sex? Do you find that there is more contention between you when sex is few and far between, or non existent?

This is not a healthy relationship.

Draw a triangle. In the triangle draw some horizontal lines. In this spaces write what you know is the foundation of a healthy relationship and as you go higher the priority is less. Be honest. Don't write what you know, not what you feel or what your relationship has prioritized things.

Now, cut these strips and now arrange them how your marriage is, turning the pieces upside down. If your marriages is (pretty much) based on sex, place that strip of paper on the bottom and work your way up. Is your triangle wobbly, out of balance?

Fix it.

How?

Communicate honestly and clearly with your spouse. And work. I've learned that a marriage requires daily, hourly, minute-by-minutes, and second-by-second maintainance (I don't think I spelt that right).

When you're not with your spouse how can you maintain? Thoughts play a HUGE role. Don't let your mind wonder from your partner. Honor those covenants you made in your mind, too. Anything that drives your thoughts to "someone else" needs to go.

Do the opinions of other's do that? They can!

Talk to your sweety. Keep your sweety your sweety!

Choose your love. Love your choice.